If Child Services isn’t already aware of the fact that your soon-to-be ex has a baby, now is the time to tell them. I would also ask them to refer you to free/low-cost legal representation in court.

Maybe this should tell, that he is a perv, and needs to be stopped. Take your daughter and just go. Let the chips fall where they fall. Her safety comes first.

i agree with Tracy. heed her advice or you’ll regret it.

I think you should be more concerned with your baby, and yourself. You need to protect her, if he was accused of child molestation, you should get her away from him! Don’t worry about him, worry about HER!

Wow I would definately be very clear with the judge as to why you dont want him to have visitation and see if you can call around and come up with some free or reduced legal council. I would maybe start with the local womens shelters and see if they can give you some advice. I would do everything in my power to keep my kid away from him. All the normal disclaimers. This is not legal advice just my opinion and I am not a lawyer

Write all you know down and submit it in the court. The Court Clerk should be able to help you with that.

Also DO contact social Services or child protection and definitely tell you lawyer all you know.

Ask the police for advice

Contact the District attorney handling the charges against him and get it made part of his sentencing that he is not to have contact with your daughter. If he is in the military, they have rules to see that you are provided with legal council. Check with his base commander.

Mine did the same thing to my daughter and also in the military.He is now serving a 20 year sentence.You can contact the base legal office and the attorneys there should help you.There should already be a no contact order in place though you may want to check on this..If he is being investigated again for a different incident then this is good news for you.It is highly unlikely that he will ever be able to have contact let alone visitation with your daughter.Though you may not possibly recieve any child support or alimony at all.As for them discharging him;He may wind up in a military prison as mine did.In that case;I wouldn’t worry about that.As for money;Be aware that that may stop suddenly without being told or informed at all.It would have been better for you if you had postponed the divorce but since you are in the middle of it;You will lose your military benefits.I stayed legally married 5 years after he was sentenced and was able to keep my ID card up until the final appeal was finished.The medical they stopped on me suddenly a year before and for the girls too but they at least had some time covered and I was also able to use the commisary.Since we were in different states;They moved him;He was not allowed contact with them till 18 years.He couldn’t even write to them or recieve mail from them so I didn’t have to make any decisions and his beef is towards the military not me.If he is being let out;inform your state police department and also get a guardian ad litem through your local children and families agency.They can be a big help in preventing any sort of visitation and it will be investigated by them and recorded in case something should turn up later on.You are fortunate that your daughter does not know him.There are no emotional ties for her but it may be best not to even tell her who he was as she may someday want to go after him to actually get to know him.My daughter has and I am still concerned for her when he gets out but she is 21 now and can decide for herself. I wish you the best in all of this.The military may have contributed to his problem by the abundant use of porn.They think it as harmless and then wonder why these guys are messing up like this.As for his pay;you could contact his first sgt and find out if he can find out the date and time it is put into the account.Then get it immediately.You have a child to care for.Pay only Your serious immediate needs like a vehicle or rent. Do not pay his bills.Apply for public assistance like electric;water and rent early as sometimes there are waiting lists. You should qualify for wic and food stamps possibly or will as soon as the pay stops so apply for those immediately.You could do daycare for extra income if you have no one to keep your child to go to work but don’t tell anyone about your spouse as they may not be comfortable with you even though you have had no part in his actions. THis is a tough thing to have to live with in heart but he made this decision and took a wrong road as he has opened a terrible door and has become ill because of it.Do not blame yourself.It will take time to heal from this.He has an issue that is beyond you to help him with.He needs professional help and your main concern now is your daughter.He’ll have plenty of time to work on himself.You have all the responsibility now so you either have to find a way to make it; or place your daughter up for adoption while she is young or find a relative to keep her.I do Wish you all the best;Been through this nightmare.It does bet better in time…..

Gather all the paperwork/evidence you can find pertaining to the case you referred to and bring that with you to court. Do not be afraid to talk to the judge and tell the judge of your fears. Remember the judge will order for the best interest of the child and has dealt with many manipulative liars. Also, make your story short and to the point, facts only, judges don’t like drama. Good luck to you.

In the words of out dear ex president…

“-fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can’t get fooled again.”